Ellie and Robert Cain continued family traditions with their countryside wedding
Ellie and Robert’s relationship started with a festive first date and it wasn’t long before these two realised they were made for each other. “We talked about getting married and Robert jokingly called me FMC (Future Mrs Cain) at a barbecue earlier in the summer, so I hoped he might propose when we went on our first holiday together, visiting his parents in La Palma,” explains Ellie. Robert did indeed pop the question on the trip, and the couple set a date for their May wedding the following year.
Ellie took the lead on planning the wedding, which had the theme of music and purple as the main colour. “Music is a huge part of Robert’s life and it was easy to incorporate it throughout. I’m obsessed with purple, so no-one was surprised to see it feature!” she explains. “I took a lot of inspiration from magazines and online sites and I had a picture in my head of how I wanted it to look – like a cross between a Thomas Hardy novel and a music festival. I did get quite stressed during the months leading up to the wedding but it was worth it on the day, when it was exactly as I had dreamed it would be.”
The couple were married at the church of St Bridget in Chelvey, a pretty country church near Ellie’s parents’ farm. It was a special venue for Ellie, as previous generations of the bride’s family were married there too. When it came to the reception, Ellie had always dreamed of having it on the farm, so the whole family pitched in to help make this a reality. “My mum has advanced MS and her mobility is not great, so it also meant that she could be a part of the day. My dad worked so hard to make everything perfect, including spreading tons of gravel to flatten the ground under the marquee!” It also meant that Ellie and Rob could pose for a photo in the very same farmhouse door that the bride’s grandmother posed in on her wedding day. Family and friends helped with the details of the day, with Ellie’s aunt Conny doing the bouquet and flowers, and friends driving the couple in a 1920s Lanchester.
Ellie’s pretty lace gown came from Cardiff Bridal Centre. “I knew I wanted something fairly simple and elegant, although after we had found it, I had fun trying on meringues in the last shops!” She accessorised it with a birdcage veil and Irregular Choice shoes. Grace Kingsley completed the bridal look with hair and make-up, as well as for Ellie’s mother and the five bridesmaids and flower girls. “Grace was so lovely!” enthuses Ellie. “She was such a great person to have there on the day itself, having experience of calming numerous nervous brides. She was even able to find the hook on the back of my dress and keep the flower girls out of mischief. She kept me sane on the morning!”
There was one very special guest – Ellie’s spaniel Pip, whose presence at the wedding was at the forefront of Ellie’s planning. The cute spaniel was also immortalised in icing on the wedding cake by Ann Pickard of The Icing Centre, along with models of the happy couple, and was part of the fun for nearly as long as the human guests. “After most of the guests had gone home, Robert played his acoustic guitar on the dance floor and we all sang along. Except Pip, who decided the day had been long enough and climbed into the fur-lined guitar case, curled up and went to sleep!”
The wedding was held on the May Bank Holiday, but the typical holiday traffic meant that the ceremony had to be delayed by half an hour as so many guests were stuck on the M5. It also meant that there was an unexpected change of photographer. “I had actually booked a different photographer, but they got stuck in Bank Holiday traffic and weren’t able to get to me, so they rang Pat Cooper, who was local,” explains Ellie. “Fortunately, she was available and came straight away. I was so happy with how well we got on and how amazing the photos were. Maybe things happened for a reason!”
The day was everything the couple wanted and more, and they feel it set the tone for their marriage. “My wedding day was the best day of my life so far,” enthuses Ellie. “The most memorable part for me was when my dad walked me down the aisle. It still makes me feel emotional when I remember the feeling of being passed from the care of my absolute hero to my new best friend! It took me 36 years to find Robert and, on that day, we both promised to love each other and be there for each other forever. I felt truly blessed that I was able to share such a perfect wedding with so many family and friends.” Robert agrees. “We clung onto each other, as we will continue to do for the rest of our lives. Each individual part was simply superb. We had a brilliant wedding, which bodes well for our future lives together.”